Voices for Mothers. Voices for Justice.

Elevating America’s Moral Consciousness on Private Infant Adoption

Who we are.

We are mothers who lost our children to private infant adoption during the closed adoption era. For decades, we have carried the lifelong impact of family separation.

Our lived experience as the original generation exploited by the institution of private infant adoption in America is a warning—and a call to action to make the institution more equitable today. We know firsthand how the institution of private infant adoption was built on myths and misinformation. And we demand transparency because too many mothers, adoptees, and families have suffered under a system that puts profit above human connection.

We seek to elevate our society’s moral consciousness, expose the regulatory injustices of private infant adoption, and advocate for ethical family preservation. No mother should be pressured into surrendering her child. No child should be separated from their family of origin.

Ledger of Harms

Ledger of Harms: Private Domestic Infant Adoption

Private infant adoption operates with alarming efficiency in America—and almost no meaningful oversight. In fact, most laws favor its existence and help expedite its process, further entrenching its reach and impact on vulnerable populations. But private infant adoption harms every single life it touches. Here are just some of the hidden costs that never make it onto its balance sheets.

Mothers
Adopted Persons
Adoptive Families
Society

Emotional Trauma

Long-term psychological distress and grief from separation from their child.

Coercion & Manipulation

Pressure to relinquish their child, often without fully informed consent.

Loss of Parental Rights

Permanent loss of the right to parent their child.

Identity & Attachment Issues

Struggles with identity formation due to lack of connection with biological roots.

Psychological Impact

Feelings of abandonment, rejection, and loss.

Being adopted is widely acknowledged as an adverse childhood experience (ACE) and adoptees are 4x as likely to take their own lives.

Cultural Disconnection

Loss of cultural heritage and natural family history.

Unresolved Grief

Challenges in dealing with unresolved grief and loss from infertility.

Financial Strain

High costs associated with the adoption process, leading to financial burdens.

Family Dynamics

Complex family dynamics and potential strain on relationships.

Perpetuation of Inequality

Reinforcement of socio-economic disparities by exploiting vulnerable populations.

Legal & Ethical Concerns

Legal loopholes and unethical practices that resemble human trafficking.

Cultural Stigmatization

Stigmatization of birth mothers as unfit or irresponsible.

Know your rights. Protect your choice.

Your rights as a mother depend on where you live and how vulnerable you are—and those who profit from private infant adoption know it.

Factors that make you vulnerable include:

  • Limited financial resources
  • No strong support system
  • Shame and guilt
  • Lack of self esteem
  • Participation in an authoritarian religion
Private infant adoption has 36 hopeful adoptive parents lined up for every single infant they can separate from their mother.
  • The Problem
  • Your Vulnerability
  • Your Rights

In some states, you can legally sign away your parental rights within hours of giving birth. In others, you have more time, protections, and support—but you may never hear about them.

Too many mothers are misled, isolated, and rushed into surrendering their infants without fully understanding their legal rights or long-term options.

If you're pregnant or have just given birth and are considering adoption, know this: every new mother is vulnerable. Emotionally. Physically. Sometimes financially.

That vulnerability is not a weakness—it's a normal part of giving birth. But private infant adoption preys on it, especially when poverty is involved. It moves fast, hoping you won't have the time, support, or information to make a truly free decision.

Consent is only ethical when it's fully informed and freely given.

That means knowing your rights before you sign anything. You deserve time. You deserve truth. You deserve support—and you have every right to ask for all of those things.

And no matter what anyone tells you: You are perfectly capable of parenting your own child—and you deserve the chance to do so.